Having a baby is a very
challenging time for new Mums and Dads. One area in which a new Dad can be a
huge help to his partner is by using consistent positive reinforcement. The majority of new mums will experience baby blues, which
are characterised by tears, feeling down and uncertainty. These feelings are
usually temporary but they highlight the emotional changes and vulnerability
that many new mums experience.
Consistent words of
encouragement, reinforcing the great job that she is doing and how much you
appreciate her is a great way to support a new mum. This is especially
important as she is learning new skills such as breastfeeding and settling the
baby. This can be a really difficult experience for some new mums as there are
huge expectations that it should work perfectly first time, not to mention huge
pressure from midwifes on breast-feeding (but thats another story we will
get to later). By focusing on positive reinforcement it reassures your
partner that you understand what she is going through and care enough to
support her.
Your relationship with your partner can
change when your firstborn comes along. Your partner will have enough affection
to accommodate another person, but she won't have the time or energy. Men are
usually adept at supporting their partners, but need to find a place of their
own in their child's life.
