Positive Reinforcement

Having a baby is a very challenging time for new Mums and Dads. One area in which a new Dad can be a huge help to his partner is by using consistent positive reinforcement. The majority of new mums will experience baby blues, which are characterised by tears, feeling down and uncertainty. These feelings are usually temporary but they highlight the emotional changes and vulnerability that many new mums experience. 

Consistent words of encouragement, reinforcing the great job that she is doing and how much you appreciate her is a great way to support a new mum. This is especially important as she is learning new skills such as breastfeeding and settling the baby. This can be a really difficult experience for some new mums as there are huge expectations that it should work perfectly first time, not to mention huge pressure from midwifes on breast-feeding (but thats another story we will get to later). By focusing on positive reinforcement it reassures your partner that you understand what she is going through and care enough to support her.

Your relationship with your partner can change when your firstborn comes along. Your partner will have enough affection to accommodate another person, but she won't have the time or energy. Men are usually adept at supporting their partners, but need to find a place of their own in their child's life.